THE BOOK EVERY GROWN-UP
NEEDS TO READ
When I grow up, I want to be a kid:
18 lessons from the people we thought we were teaching
Written by Nicky Foulkes
Do you long for ‘the good old days’ when life was simple and care-free?
Do you sometimes wonder where all the fun went?
🌟 Imagine bouncing out of bed every day with excitement for what was to come.
🌟 Imagine living in the moment and not giving two hoots about what other people think about you.
🌟 Imagine enjoying exercise, eating what you want and LOVING your body.
🌟 Imagine saying ‘yes’ to new opportunities and ‘hell no’ to things that zap your time and energy.
🌟 Imagine asking for what you truly want without fear of letting someone down.
Sounds too good to be true, right?
Well, believe it or not, we’ve all been there before and I believe we can all get there again…
In my book, When I grow up, I want to be a kid, I dive into how kids view the world versus how we as adults view the world.
💛 How their view is still untainted by society.
💛 How they live in the moment.
💛 How they dream big.
💛 How they don’t focus on what anyone else thinks about them or if their butt looks big in their jeans(!)
They are unapologetically themselves.
They’ll run around dressed as Batman, singing na-na-na-na-na-na. If people laugh, THEY DON’T CARE! They keep going because they’re having the time of their lives.
When was the last time you were truly in the moment and didn’t give a cr*p what anyone else was thinking?
Hint: if it involved alcohol, it doesn’t count!
Through my book, I’ve shared areas where I believe as adults we’ve got it all wrong and it’s the kids who should be teaching us.
By observing how my own kids and their peers act, I’ve witnessed the playful, energetic, devil-may-care attitude with which they go through every day.
In stark contrast, I’ve been at the other end of the scale where every day is a chore – a battle to get from morning to bedtime. Wishing away the week, and therefore wishing my life away, just to do it all again the next week.
Wouldn’t it be nice to recapture some of that fun and excitement of our youth? When every day presented new opportunities to have fun, connect with others, move our bodies and not worry about anything outside of the task at hand.
Through ‘When I grow up, I want to be a kid’, I explore 18 different lessons we can learn from our kids.
I share anecdotes and tangible steps that have been tried and tested by me to find a little more brightness in life.
I even offer journal prompts to get you thinking about how you can make a change in your life.
‘When I grow up, I want to be a kid’ really made me think about my life. I am a happy, busy working mum and wife. Life is good! This book made me realise although I am happy, most of the things I do are for everybody else. Don’t get me wrong – I get a lot of pleasure out of helping others, but I don’t do much for me.
There is so much I would love to do – learn new skills, hobbies etc. Somewhere along the line, I have lost what I like. This book has made me stop, make time and just do it. I have an ‘I can do’ attitude.
Thanks Nicky for waking me up.❤️️
Why I wrote this book
I’m fascinated by human nature and have always loved hearing people’s stories. I’m a writer and qualified life coach and I’ve worked as a journalist, editor and copywriter for years.
I had this pull to write this book around four years ago – before my second daughter was born. I realised how demanding kids can be and as I was struggling to fit everything into the day – work, housework, taking care of my family and occasionally getting some sleep!
I was tired of the daily grind and was looking for ways to inject some much-needed lightness into my life.
I’d always been in awe of my daughter’s energy and willingness to get up and give anything a go. I began to connect the dots and saw more examples of child-like and fun behaviour.
Writers are often taught to ‘write the book YOU need to read’, and this was so powerfully true for me with this book.
So, why do I have the authority to write such a book?
Well, I’d had my second daughter by the time I started writing and had a whole new perspective shift again. My world was thrown upside down and inside out when she was born. Without going into too much detail, she was incredibly sick when she was born. We didn’t know if she would make it, but she fought and fought through three life-saving operations to be here. Suddenly, I found myself thrust into this whole world of awe and appreciation once again and realised how much I’d been living on auto-pilot – coasting through the days with caffeine pumping through my veins to keep me going.
I had to re-discover fun to create a brighter life for me and my family.
That’s when I looked to my kids for answers.
After realising how carefree, playful and full of joy they are, I witnessed a number of other behaviours that make all the difference. Places that we, as adults, feel as though we need to restrain ourselves and ‘people please’.
Maybe these little people who were often the source of my stress (hello sleepless nights!), actually held the key to unlocking the fun and freedom that were packed away many, many moons ago.
So, when this idea came to me, it was time to put all my knowledge, qualifications and experiences together and get to work.
This book provides a set of guidelines I try to live by.
That being said, I’m always a work in progress and that’s OK! We all are. We cannot and should not ever expect perfection of ourselves or others.
Who is this book for?
This book is for you if:
✅ you feel like you’ve been coasting along on autopilot;
✅ you’ve been struggling to find any joy in life;
✅ any form of self-care has gone out of the window;
✅ you feel as though you’ve lost the ‘old you’ and want to reclaim your identity; or
✅ you’re ready to embrace your inner child and start living life on your terms.
This book is NOT for you if:
❌ you have a fixed mindset;
❌ you’re stuck in your ways; and
❌ you believe your life is just fine and dandy as is, thank you very much!
If you have a growth mindset, are willing to look at things from a different perspective and are happy to learn and grow, I think you’ll take something useful from this book.
‘When I grow up, I want to be a kid’ is a great read for all us mums (and dads) who have forgotten what it’s like to be young and carefree due to the stress and demands of adult life. The book made me laugh as it allowed me to visualise the young me who had such a zest for life and it brought back so many happy and funny memories from my joyful youth.
It also made me think about my own kids’ free-spirits and how lucky they are to JUST be a kid and having FUN 24/7.
Each chapter focuses on real lessons from real life that us grown-ups can learn from kids and provides doable strategies to change our ways and thinking to live life fully and playfully as we did when we were kids – worry less, dream big, to be yourself and not care what others think, to live for the moment, stop over analysing everything you say and do, etc.
The book is beautifully presented with a simple structure. It’s one of those books that you can keep by your bedside table and open up a chapter when you need daily reminders or strategies to help reflect, relax, stress less and bring back that FUN again that we are all missing.
What’s included in the book?
Through the book, I explore 18 lessons – one per chapter – that our kids are teaching us and we don’t even realise it. In fact, we sometimes condemn them for it, when in reality, we could take a leaf or two out of their book.
From dreaming big to eating intuitively, body image to stamping out negative self-talk and overthinking, a whole range of topics bring the importance of being our true selves to the surface.
I’ll tell you how and where I’ve witnessed these things in action and share anecdotes that many parents and carers of young children will relate to. I also offer tangible, practical and simple steps that I use to incorporate these lessons into my life as well as offering journal prompts for you to look at how you can add to this list.
I’ve also included an appendix with affirmations, designed to help you think ‘better’ in various areas of your life.
Do you feel you could do with an injection of that carefree nature you once enjoyed?
Do you feel your life is too chaotic and needs simplifying?
Are you ready to reclaim the fun and enjoyment in life?
Isn’t it about time you bid farewell to living life in autopilot and took control?
It’s time to stop merely existing and start truly living.
About the author
Hi, I’m Nicky Foulkes
I’m a coach, writer, author and doting mum to two enigmatic young ladies.
I love cheesy 80’s music and movies, Golden Retrievers, almond milk lattes, dad jokes and finding innuendos in EVERYTHING!
My mission is to help people create a life bursting with happiness.
My book, When I grow up, I want to be a kid, contains 18 lessons to inspire you to live a brighter life.
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